TODAY: Created something…

Having authentic self esteem lies in simply doing esteem-able acts.  There are no shortcuts.  

Self esteem grows when you do the things you said you’d do. It grows when you do the right thing when nobody is looking. It grows when you don’t exaggerate your story to make yourself look better.  You don’t need to run a marathon or build a successful business to build self esteem.  It’s actually the little things that build it.  Simple but hard.

To be secure, you need to stop doing insecure things.

You might tell a coworker that you successfully ran a marathon, where in reality you just ran a 10k. Them believing this about you may give you an immediate “hit” of satisfaction, but in the end you are really rotting your self esteem.  When you tell yourself that you won’t drink at tomorrow’s party, but you end up having a few beers, you again ding your self esteem. Or, perhaps the greatest enemy to authentic living and self esteem, are secrets. Secrets will ruin you, including the little ones.

I’ve said this before, but our egos usually consists of 3 different people.  We are who we think we are, we are who we think others think we are, and then lastly we are who we really are. When you do esteem-able acts, it’s easier to be authentic.  When you can be authentic, the ego collapses and you can just be one person… who you really are. That feels good

You can’t think your way into a better way of living, you have to live your way into a new way of thinking.  It’s about action, and as usual, there are no shortcuts

The truth will set you free. 

Imagine how’d you feel at days end if…

You made your bed and left the house with no messes to come home to

You meditated or prayed for 15 minutes 

You ate healthy 

You allotted time for some form of self care…and did it

You did your absolute best at work

You met all your obligations

You listened to understand, and not just to respond

You took the day on life’s terms, not needing a drink, chemical, or quick fix from the external world to manage yourself

You lived with truth…in all matters. No secrets


Don’t miss an opportunity this week to keep your mouth shut

Seriously. Listen and be truthful to yourself and others. You’ll find it’s very difficult to not interject yourself into conversations and share your opinion, thoughts, or ideas. There’s something powerful about just sitting in your thoughts and observing. Strangely, when you don’t tell someone how great you are (even if you really are!) you end up actually feeling better about yourself! You realize you don’t need external validation to value yourself. You realize that you are enough as is! Of course there is the right time to speak, but be efficient with your words.

Lastly, no secrets either. A good rule of thumb – Don’t do one thing that you wouldn’t share with your grandma

The Daily Fundamentals 

Do something incredible

Give something incredible 

Create something incredible 

Authenticity is today’s currency…

Matt Miller
Author: Matt Miller

Matt Miller has done many things in his young addition to just surviving. In 2002, Matt left behind person he once was as his life was suddenly changed forever by a horrendous mountain climbing accident. Diving for his falling father, Matt fell over 4,000 feet before miraculously stopping just short of the ragid cliffs. Through a night of survival and pain, Matt persevered but lost most of his fingers and toes as a result from frostbite. Matt does everything from public speaking, one-on-one consulting, firm strategy, as well as company retreat facilitation. With a seasoned investment background and passion for educating the investment world, Matt also can't resist sharing his comments from time to time on markets. Matt is also an avid runner, successfully completing over 10 marathons without his toes! He is 38 and resides in Phoenix, Arizona.

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